#1 Thing You Can Do To Reduce Holiday Stress?

Relaxed or Stressed?
Relaxed or Stressed?

Get a handle on your JOMTI.  On your what?

JOMTI – Just One More Thing-Itis!

You know that urge to squeeze one more thing in…and then it makes you late.  It makes you late for the holiday party, the concert, or puts you at the mall with only an hour left to shop.  It makes the traffic heavier, it makes the prices higher and it makes the blood pressure rise.

Now, what if instead of making that phone call, answering that email, or checking Facebook one last time you left 5 minutes earlier.  I know, it’s hard to do.  But consider the benefit.  Ask yourself – it is worth it?  Even if it was an important task, ask yourself:

  • Can it wait?
  • What if I did it later?
  • What if I didn’t get to it at all?

The trade off for doing one less thing? MORE JOY THIS HOLIDAY SEASON.

Wishing you a wonderfully joyful pre-holiday week.

 

Making a List and Checking it Twice

Long List?
Long List?

No… not talking about Santa’s list.  I’m talking about your TO DO list.  If you’re putting EVERYTHING on your list you are probably overwhelmed.  Before you say YES to a task or opportunity, run it through a filter list that helps you sort the yes’s from the no’s:

Possible Filter List Questions:   

  • Will it help someone or something important to me?
  • Will it help me grow personally or professionally?
  • Will it help me reach my goals?
  • Will I have fun doing it?
  • Will it give me joy?

Not sure? Ask yourself:

  • What’s the worst thing that will happen if I say NO?
  • Why should I say YES, and why should I say NO?
  • If I say YES to this, what will I be saying NO to?

If the answer isn’t clearly “yes”, then it probably should be “no.”

Ode to a Suit – Letting Go Is Hard

waiting for pick up
waiting for pick up

I spent some time in our storage room on Sunday getting rid of stuff.  My business wardrobe from the ’80’s is now sitting on the front stoop waiting for pick up from the Vietnam Vets (www.ScheduleAPickUp.com).

Sunday morning I wasn’t aware that those suits were even in my home.  Today I’m sad.  It is the end of an era (NO ELLEN – that era was over long ago – no respectable women feels like they have to dress like a man today).   But, I’m highly confident that tomorrow I will have forgotten that those suits have moved storage locations.   I have a picture of my favorite navy suit – I wore it for a photo shoot for a hotel I managed – it’s in the brochure.  That’s much better.

Goodbye skis I bought before Alex was born (soon to be 21), I’m sure you’re not safe anymore.  Pack ‘N Play that I kept in case someone needed one…I suspect your not safe anymore either – but I’ll leave that up to the experts to decide.  So long work bins I’ve evolved out of…it’s time for you all to go back to the universe and to someone who can really use you.

Ellen Delap (www.professional-organizer.com) posted a great Psychology Today article earlier this week about what happens to the brain when we let go of something.  Letting go activates the part of the brain that is tied to identity…like you are giving away a part of yourself.  Author Kelly McGonigal Ph.D. talks about how to strengthen your willpower and separate. (And for my NAPO colleagues – it’s very cool that both experts sited in this article were our keynote speakers at NAPO2013).

Interesting…I already feel better with my stuff out of the house – but it did sting for a second.